Anger Management

Psalm 4:4 “Don’t sin by letting anger control you. Think about it overnight and remain silent.”

Anger is something we all experience and can struggle with. It can also be easy in the heat of the moment to allow anger to take control of us. Maybe not physically but it could be in the words we say. Most of us have had those situations where as soon as something left our mouths, we regretted it and wished we could take it back.

The thing is we have to learn how to deal with anger. We live in a fallen world where not everyone has the same beliefs and standards that we do. Or simply that people fail us or let us down. Most of us have been hurt by someone, whether through words or actions it has caused us pain, resentment, bitterness, and even anger. Especially the more we brood or think about the offense, anger builds. I know for me personally when I have been hurt by someone, the more I think about what they did to me. The more that anger, bitterness, and even hate build up inside me. I think of how I can get back at the person, what I want to say, even how I can shame them, or make them pay for what they did or said.

Anger is the expression of a disease inside us called bitterness. When we are hurt, bitterness and resentment take hold. At that point we have a choice to forgive or to hold on to the hurt. As we cling to the hurt, it festers and grows. We become even more bitter and more angry, until we surrender it to Jesus it is powder keg, waiting to explode.

We must actively choose to forgive, to turn over to God the hurt and pain we have experienced. The truth is our sin and the things we have done wrong are worst offenses than anything someone has done to us. God forgave us of our sins, and sent Jesus to pay the price for them. A lot greater price than what someone did to us. Take time today to forgive and not let anger have control of you.

James 1:19 says, “You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry.”

Take the advice from James 1 and Psalm 4. When anger starts to build take a break. Don’t say something you will regret, let the anger die down and address the situation later. Or surrender it to God and forgive the person who hurt you. Sometimes our best solution is to be quiet and come back later when we have cooled down.

David MessengerComment