Desiring to be Loved
“So now I am giving you a new commandment: Love each other. Just as I have loved you, you should love each other. Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples.”- John 13:34-35
Every single person on this planet wants to be deeply loved – whether they will admit it or are aware of it or not. The truth is that at the core of who you are, you desire to be deeply loved. The loneliest times of my life have been in relationships – with a parent, family, a friend, even with my husband – in which I called out to be seen, I reached out for unconditional love… and nothing was returned. There have been times as a Christian I have felt guilty for wanting to be loved. Somewhere I got the idea that desiring to be loved is a selfish desire. That I should always give love and not expect to ever receive it. That I should constantly do good and be compassionate toward others, looking for nothing in return. But the truth is that God created us with the natural desires to love and to be loved. I am a humble person and to me it can sound downright arrogant to say, "I'm a lovable person. I'm worthwhile and deserve to have someone care deeply about me." For a while I questioned my worth and whether or not I am loveable. However, now I am thankful that God showed me on my mission trip that I'm worthy of His love and because of that I'm worthy of the love of other human beings too. -Ephesians 2:4-9 Because of my relationship with Him, I am secure in His love, not mans.
Do you feel Loveable? Jesus loves everyone and His love is not a love we have to earn. Do you know the most loveable person that ever lived was Jesus. Down through the centuries, billions of people have deeply loved Him even though they never met him. Jesus gave His life to save us from our sins and that ultimate sacrifice earned our love and worship. We become more lovable by becoming more like Jesus. That happens when we surrender our life to Jesus. It’s true that we all have personality traits that irritate or offend others, but when you surrender to God, He will file down your rough spots, carve away any pettiness or smallness in your life, and ironically, your personality is not diminished, but is softened and beautified. Jesus knew when He surrendered to God’s will for His life, God's limitless love would flow through Him and into others. There's nothing wrong with desiring to be loved.
The bible says “Pursue love, and earnestly desire the spiritual gifts…”-1 Corinthians 14:1
Empty yourself enough to be a conduit for God's love. He will reward you not only with His love, but with the love of other people as well. Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love.-1 John 4:8 Know that when you love others there is always a risk that you won't be loved in return. The good news is when you know that God loves you no matter what, you can love like Jesus.
Take a genuine interest in people. Consistently look for the good in them and love them as Jesus would and you will truly stand out from the crowd.
And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose. -Romans 2:8